Welcome to summer and the promise of sun, warmth and of course the delights of nature! I have spent the last year going through some radical changes. As I mentioned in my last post, I now have finished a year of visual rehabilitation after being diagnosed with visual difficulties. It was an unexpected, difficult, yet worthwhile journey. Many of my past adaptations (habits) needed to be replaced with different visual and behavioral habits. I am excited about the new possibilities ahead! Yet getting to this path required a coach approach and a willingness to make a fresh start!
The changes are a result of a term called neuroplasticity. The ability of the brain to form and reorganize synaptic connections, especially in response to learning, experience or following injury. I often tell my clients that we are practicing self-directed neuroplasticity, as we become aware of our destructive habits, thoughts, beliefs, and stories that may be holding us back we can choose to change. Why bother? To develope healthy, mindful neural pathways that support our intentions.
Through a safe coaching conversation we are rewiring new, more productive and supportive habits and pathways. I had a chance to test this theory on a whole new level as I became more mindful of what my eyes were doing beyond my unconscious awareness! Many of the exercises had to be repeated and meaningful.
Every new thought, behavior and action directs our neurons to fire and wire in a whole new direction and create a new pathway or habit that supports us going toward our vision, mission and action steps! In a coaching conversation, every AHA produces a neuro-symphony of feel good hormones and supports new habits to emerge! The brain can be “re-wired” in response to experiences over a lifetime.
Behavior will lead to changes in brain circuitry, just as changes in brain circuitry will lead to behavioral change. I could spend hours going into the theories of neuroscience and coaching with the brain in mind! My coaching remains scientifically based and solution focused, so that what we can change is addressed. In my case, my eyes and how I see is completely changed in many ways!
My family and those close to me helped navigate this issue and I suspect as life goes forward it won’t be the last unexpected issue we need to deal with. Now I am left with a great need to continue to let go of the old and welcome in the new. I have felt a major shift in my consciousness and a deeper clarity and knowing that everything changes, yet, I am reminded we are often not in control. Knowing this brings new appreciation, courage and more willingness to take risks and invite in vulnerability. I invite you to do the same. We all suffer, yet with choice we can open the doors to our own personal freedom by understanding who we really are! Finding our authentic selves, becoming an observer of our own behaviors while discovering or deepening our life purpose is the wisest superpower we can harness. Our purpose is the essence of who we are and what makes us unique! Here are some of the questions I asked myself to become curious, avoid getting stuck and move forward; perhaps they could be helpful to you too:
- What is most important now?
- Where do you see yourself going next?
- What is calling you? What could be holding you back?
- What must you let go of? What are you most afraid of?
- What changes might be required?
- Where is your energy to bring your new vision forward?
- Over the next 3 months, if you could prototype a small piece of your future what would this look like? Who could help? What practical steps will you take?
- And so many more…
After listening to my inner leader, and conducting a small survey, I will be making some exciting changes to my business! Although I still love my work, I want to reignite and infuse more of my wisdom in my offerings and redefine my programs. This requires more change, more courage and I believe a stronger expression of who I am. This means serving you and your organizations even better! Stay tuned and please reach out at any time.
“How does one become a butterfly?” she asked pensively. You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.”Trina Paulus