DAY 4: How is Behavioral Self-Control Important to Owning “Your Powerful Leadership Presence”?

 How is Behavioral Self-Control important to “Owning Your Powerful Leadership Presence”?

Leaders with Behavioral Self Control keep disruptive emotions and impulses in check. They are able to effectively:

·         Manage their impulsive feelings and distressing emotions

·         Stay composed, positive, and unflappable even in trying moments

·         Restrain negative reactions

·         Think clearly and stay focused under pressure

·         Maintain their stamina and performance in emotionally-charged situations

·         Choose not to escalate a problem when attacked, provoked, or aggressively confronted by another person

·         When faced with hostility or opposition, remain “cool under pressure”

 There are many ways to grow your behavioral self control. Here are a few tips to start on your journey. Self-awareness is the first step!

·         Make a list of things that cause you to “lose it” – your triggers or “hot buttons”

·         Write out a strategy to deal with each of these issues the next time they arise

·         Remember to try and choose a more constructive response when issues come up

      In the future:

·         Watch your self-talk! Ask yourself what it looks like to stay composed and focused

·        Try your best to think clearly under pressure

“Anyone can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – this is not easy.” – Aristotle

·      Now that you have some new ideas about behavioral self control, try and answer these coaching questions below!

·         What’s most important about Emotional Behavioral Self Control to me?

·         Now what will I do differently?

 Project yourself into the future and imagine having more behavioral self control… Can you describe this?  What have you done to reach this outcome? 

*Some information used from Dr. Laura Belsten, ISEI